I am myself a CP leader for a year now with ups and downs, had to see people quit, do their own stuff, did not match CP goals, attention, real life stuff, etc. Only had to let 1 person go, because some CP members got fed-up overtime with the same problem over and over again, and since we are more than fine.
#1 I always made clear that we gear main first, despite being a support. Don't start putting Adena on a box toon that is not part of the CP, this creates frustration and people notice that someone is not improving the same pace.
Then help from time to time to gear and make pre-requisites for dual so the support can do dailies at his/her pace.
Here it is very important to "oblige" people to focus on their dual in order to sustain after a certain time by himself/herself.
Talk and guide people during gearing process, if they are unsure what to upgrade.
Let people make a wish list. And stick to it! Push it until you make it. Every 3 months, a new one. Only this way, you focus on specific things. I remember when mine wanted lvl5 Gems, today those bastards want Greater Gems, Elmore+15, +7 higher Artifacts etc. But we keep pushing it and enjoy at our common pace. We even made Blood-Stain weapons which were impossible a year ago. Hard work with good results and we are all proud.
"Force" them to upgrade specific items first, book, Kaliel, Circlet, +3/+4 artifacts, things that don't go above 20-50b first which can be made from Primeval Isle over time.
DDs need also huge gear in order to push the supports, so at the beginning I took it for 2-3 months in order to push all to a certain level so they could sustain themselves and leveled their spare box ISS to 110 so they could duo outside CP farm time. All this was possible because I had a box toon DD who pushed their ISS over time.
2-3# Meeh, respect sure, you can't shutdown people's mind
4# comes when you grow as a team and learn from mistakes.
#5 Don't mind to give sometimes more to supports and farm yourself the difference. I cannot count how much I gave away in order to gear supports in order to make us stronger as a team. As long you see that the CP members plays actively, push him to become even better.
Primeval, Storm Isle passes. Do 1 hour of IOS instead of them while using their pass and return them the Adena that you couldn't have gotten without that pass. Save up Primeval Passes cheap and farm for them during specific events.
#6 Show some class, but also needs to be wiser than others, even as a CP leader I learn from my old CP mates and vice-versa. Sharing and caring the most you can.
#7 Even when you know your class, ain't easy when you don't have the same gear than folks in front of you.
Very important, to regroup as a team when it failed the attack/defense.
#8 Pay attention! Most important. People tend to have an issue to pay attention for 1-2 hours, dailies, siege.
#9 You spend a considerable time together. I like to share a picture of my dumb face, my beer evening, random stuff, it keeps a clean and healthy CP environment. Just say "GM" in Whatsapp
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Here are my additional rules:
1. Communication (Whatsapp, Discord)
2. Sex Life goes first
3. Real Life goes first
4. Let people know you cannot make it and enjoy "2."
5. Play together
6. Improve together
7. bleep people together in L2
8. Become strong overtime
9. Help when you can or are willing to help
10. Do not take game too serious
11. Do not break your bank account and financial situation
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I was pleased to read the suggestions, you could have removed the players name, because some people are able to play same game style, but cannot improve at the same pace than others who invest way more, which allows a certain number of players to benefit from that strength.
The amount of times I helped people in IT without having to write my toons name in a forum
Some people tend to forget who helped them in IT or other instances overtime
At a certain extend, we are all "goldfishes".
Enjoy game folks.